Do you love me or Do you not?

Our Words

Words of encouragement are powerful, and if you are anything me, they can have power over you. In Gary Chapman’s Book the Five Love Languages, he outlines 5 unique ways we experience or show love. 

Words of affirmation are one of those unique ways. This is my dominate love language, and it has power to encourage, affirm, and motivate me to accomplish, to excel, to try harder, to work longer, and to love more. Sometimes when I feel discouraged, disillusioned, or despair, there are little word phrases that have the power to change my whole demeanor: “that was awesome”, “we need you”, “you did great”, “way to go”, “I want you”, “thanks so much”, “I love you”…….

His Words

While we are reminded in Acts 2: 42-47, that as believers we do need to love and care for one another, our ultimate approval, our ultimate affirmation, our ultimate I love you message does not, cannot come from other people. It should come from God. When we live for the recognition and support of others to motivate us, we set ourselves up for a never ending need to be recognized and approved. Yes, we do need one another, but the most satisfying, fulfilling, love and acceptance comes from God.

If you read through the New Testament, you get an unending love story to each of us from God. We have the unique and amazing standing in the love of Christ, as one loved and approved, by the work of our Savior. It is more satisfying, motivating and amazing than mere words can exclaim. Nothing compares. We don’t have to keep asking God to tell us that He loves us, He says it every day in every way in giving us Jesus. Here are four little words to remind us...For God so loved… (John 3: 16). Live in that daily reminder, and approval of God’s great love for you!

For more on this see Clay Scroggins message on Stamp of Approval.


Lori Ferguson serves as Children's Director at Navarre UMC, and has been at the church since 2015. When she's not planning or teaching, she enjoys spending time with her grandkids. Read more about Lori here.